Comments on: No Spanking Zone!

By: Paula Schuck

Paula Schuck — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 03:45:37 +0000

I feel for every parent who comments here. Parenting is hard work. The hardest job you’ll ever have and other parents can be judgmental. Be true to your heart and remember you are setting the stage for lifelong relationship with your child.

By: TealRose

TealRose — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 01:01:35 +0000

I am … almost in tears here .. I have been finding it so hard to read some blogs recently – the parents are so harsh and demanding.

I am a 56 yr old granny – who was spanked and … I lost my childhood. I lost my love, respect and trust in my parents. I knew they didn’t love me – they just hit me. And all these other people who believe in spanking [hitting] children just say that my parents should have ‘spanked with love’. I don’t believe that is possible – I believe it is an oxymoron. My parents loved me, they did the ‘post spanking pep talk’ – oh its over and we love you – and I never ever believed it. I felt alienated from them and they never ‘got me back’. I still feel angry, hurt, upset, resentful and never felt/feel good enough.

All that being said – one thing really angers me. Why is it, that to hit an animal or an adult is illegal, but hitting your own child is not ?? *sigh* it makes no sense to me !!

I never spanked my children – and there were some really hard times and I did feel the urge at times !!!

They are now considerate and kind adults !
Thank you … for your loving blog …

By: Traci

Traci — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 19:41:10 +0000

I like the “time in”. It is a much more proactive option and I am going to incorporate that into our discipline strategies. I appreciate that you shared your experiences.

By: Midnite Skys

Midnite Skys — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 22:58:11 +0000

Tell them Momma!!!!!! My house was a no-spanking zone too. I was abused growing up and told myself I will never do that to my kids. I read every book I could while pregnant with my oldest. I wasn’t going to hit. I learned re-direst and taking away privileges. I learned time outs, for myself too… yes one day I was so upset that I had to lock myself in the bathroom for I need a time out… a cool down. The little knock at the door told me that ok when you aren’t mad I will be in my room. good girl mommy… That made me cry. But it was what I would say to her… I will downstairs when you are done being mad, good girl…
PLUS I think the most important thing I learned was kids aren’t bad to get to you or to make you mad. Because they need to learn the correct way to handle things That it is our job to teach them to be responsible adults…..
Not to take it so personal! Think of it has a leaning opportunity!!!!!!!

By: Monkey Mae

Monkey Mae — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 19:28:17 +0000

Great post. I am very anti-spanking, but my husband is pro-spanking. Fortunately, he has a research-oriented brain, so I think I can win him over by the time Monkey Mae gets a bit older. If not, we will have some serious problems in our house.