emotions Archives — Thrifty Mommas Tips https://www.thriftymommastips.com/tag/emotions/ Travel, Health & Family Tue, 02 Jul 2019 11:54:32 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 https://www.thriftymommastips.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/cropped-thrifty_logo_header-32x32.png emotions Archives — Thrifty Mommas Tips https://www.thriftymommastips.com/tag/emotions/ 32 32 77340857 What You Miss Most When A Loved One Dies https://www.thriftymommastips.com/what-you-miss-most/ https://www.thriftymommastips.com/what-you-miss-most/#comments Thu, 23 May 2013 17:31:00 +0000 https://www.thriftymommastips.com/?p=515 After a loved one dies the things you miss surprise you. Small sucker punches all day long to the heart. They creep in the week after the funeral and you think I had no idea I would miss that.          Sensory Things After a Loved One Dies Of course you miss her smell, and it is visceral, the way you seek it, find it lingering on her shirt, a blouse, a blanket, even on a pair of sunglasses. That was my Mom. That was how she smelled and I never really noticed it until right this second. And your heart hurts thinking what happens when the scent wears off and I cannot see or smell her. The Emotions After a Loved One Dies You cry a lot at first. Then it stops for awhile and you sleep. But then you wake up thinking today I will go visit her and then daylight wraps cold fingers around your heart. You want to sleep longer every day in case you can see her in your dreams, or maybe you can just forget. All The Small Things When she passes away, you spend weeks missing how she worried about you. You miss how she fussed over your daughter’s hair. The funny way she wrote little notes all over Kleenex boxes. She was your biggest champion and she was a good Mom. She was proud times 20, even when you did nothing extra special at all. Being Loved The last two years she lit up every time she saw you. It was the best welcome, even better than the clinging arms of your kids when they feel abandoned. It was a deep well she drew from, and in the last two blessed years together she shone brightly with appreciation and love. Being Chosen First She chose you every time. Over anybody else. She chose you, her daughter, and you her son. There was nobody else she would rather spend time with and you felt that each time you walked down the halls of her retirement home. Always, you were first in her eyes and heart. Oh, Those Phone Calls You miss the phone calls, the hugs, the way you held her hand lately and she followed you. You miss that she worried. You miss her tiny wave, her hair, her lipstick and that specific Vichy face cream. Her laugh, her voice, the way she kept a Kleenex in her sleeve just like your Grandma did. All lost. Maybe We are All Balloons Your brain starts drifting towards the idea of balloons. Missing her, you start to wonder maybe this is life. Maybe we are all balloons tethered to the ground by so many strings, each one a person we love.  Eventually all the strings vanish and you simply float away when you pass on. Maybe you watch and cry, or smile, as you see the world below grasping at air. You miss her love and you miss her face and of course you miss seeing her. Easy to recall every visit, mentally measuring how much shorter she was getting. Of all the things though, you miss those comical phone calls daily telling you what she had done, who she had called, how dinner was. How Is It Possible? After a loved one dies you miss her familiar clothes, her slow walk, her impatience and even her music. How is it possible that after a loved one dies you miss worrying about her, writing cheques for her, giving her small reminders of dates and things? Birthdays. Anniversaries. Even, the way she was misplacing things. All The Accomplishments You miss her funny side. Her words and jokes. You miss calling her, you miss the sound of her voice and you miss her reminding everyone she taught school for 33 years.  Now You Say Thank You At the funeral every last person approached you to say how much you look like your Mom. In your 20s, you rebelled against that, refused to see it and now you see it too. They say it to comfort you. There was a time you would have argued that you were your own person and you looked nothing like her. But now you welcome this, say: Thank you. It stops your tears and fills you with a strength you thought lost. It is comfort, a blanket of everything special you loved about her, or a cape of strength like a child’s make believe super hero costume. It flies you home.

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]]> https://www.thriftymommastips.com/what-you-miss-most/feed/ 8 515 My Worry Box – A PTPA Winner for Children #Giveaway https://www.thriftymommastips.com/my-worry-box-a-ptpa-winner-for-children-giveaway/ https://www.thriftymommastips.com/my-worry-box-a-ptpa-winner-for-children-giveaway/#comments Tue, 17 Apr 2012 11:00:00 +0000 https://www.thriftymommastips.com/?p=947 Does your child worry? Chances are good, if they are preschoolers on up, there are times their little minds won’t turn off the busy actions of the day. Or times their thoughts are racing. Sensitive children, gifted children, children with special needs, perfectionists, or simply children who spend a lot of time thinking. All children at one time or another handle worry, or anxiety. That’s just part of life. These days, worry and anxiety seems to be more prevalent among children than ever before. Healthy adults handle worries and anxieties every day. But most healthy adults have a toolkit of skills to deal with their worries as they appear, before the worry gets too big. Children simply don’t have those skills yet. Sometimes they dwell on their worries until they become paralyzing. Both of my children, have at times had their worries seem so big that it has been hard to tame those worry dragons. So when I heard about this great idea – My Worry Box – I was thrilled. Both of my kids have at times had tummy aches and headaches and stories of bullies and all the usual upsets that make anxiety seem insurmountable. My Worry Box arrived a couple of weeks ago and I knew this would work for my girls. Both are good communicators and both are able to write their feelings down. My Worry Box is a tiny little private box just for them, which looks a bit like a super miniature mailbox and comes with pencil and pad of paper. The child takes the box and when they have a worrisome thought, they write it down and place it secretly inside the box. Now I personally like the idea of giving them a space all their own to contain the worry. Later, when they feel comfortable enough, they get the worry out and review it or read it, hopefully able to talk it through with a parent or adult they trust. This has worked nicely for my oldest child, at least when she doesn’t lose My Worry Box in her room. If the worry goes away then she gets to throw the paper away. That seemed to please her recently when she had something urgent upsetting her about math. It gave her the power to control worry. My oldest girl is ten, a perfectionist and a dramatic sensitive girl. The box itself comes in one of three colors – purple, blue or green. I have one to give away so some other parent can help their child this way. My Worry Box is a therapeutic tool that helps children with anxiety learn effective techniques for managing worry. It retails for just $10.97 and is recommended for children over seven. Even if you don’t win, frugal parents could duplicate this idea with a special treasure box made just for them, a pad of paper and a pencil. I like the appeal of the tiny mailbox idea. What child doesn’t like a mailbox? My Worry Box won a Parent Tested Parent Approved seal of approval. To win one of your own follow the instructions below. Open to Canada and the US. Disclosure: I received three of these for reviews and giveaways. My Opinion is as always my own. a Rafflecopter giveaway<a href=”http://rafl.es/enable-js”>You need javascript enabled to see this giveaway</a>.

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