Comments on: We Stay: Five Things I Never Told You About Special Needs Adoption

By: Paula

Paula — Fri, 28 Nov 2014 15:20:10 +0000

In reply to anon. Oh man, my heart breaks at how hard this is sometimes. For all parties. But there is no consideration or support for that from the agencies where the adoption has taken place, or the government either. It disgusts me that there isn't something more for help.

By: anon

anon — Fri, 28 Nov 2014 01:49:53 +0000

16+ has been the hardest for us. Emotionally it is harder than having a child with a life threatening illness. That was a piece of cake compared to teen years for both of them.

By: Paula

Paula — Thu, 27 Nov 2014 04:38:16 +0000

In reply to Ashley @ PioneerMomma.com. Ashley: Thank you so much for saying that and for subscribing. I have had a very moody and hard month and I know it will get better but it just needed to be said.

By: Sarah at Journeys of The Zoo

Sarah at Journeys of The Zoo — Thu, 27 Nov 2014 04:08:45 +0000

I am so sad that life isn’t fair. For you, your kids, me and my kids. That those of us that work so hard aren’t always rewarded and those that don’t deserve it are handed pleasantries on a silver platter. You are in my thoughts today and always.

Besos Sarah.

By: Ashley @ PioneerMomma.com

Ashley @ PioneerMomma.com — Thu, 27 Nov 2014 03:07:25 +0000

Oh wow. I have a special needs son (biological) and I definitely can relate. Life has been a roller coaster, but I find the situation has also taught me more about life and what I’m supposed to do, than anything else. After the initial guilt (I was convinced I did something during the pregnancy or said something wrong that magically made him require more than most kids), we were able to really gain a new perspective on the world, through him. We even hope to adopt a few kiddos with special needs in the future (which is something we had never even thought about, but now know it’s what we are supposed to do). Thanks so much for your story, it’s hard, but your family sounds like a very loving one, and that you’d do anything for your kids. Shared and subscribed 🙂

By: Paula

Paula — Thu, 27 Nov 2014 02:50:13 +0000

In reply to Brandi. Thanks Brandi. I appreciate the support.

By: Brandi

Brandi — Thu, 27 Nov 2014 01:42:25 +0000

Paula, you are amazing and your girls are amazing…they are so lucky to have you – through the challenges and the good times. I can’t even begin to imagine the challenges and emotions that must arise, but the loving family you all have made together is an amazing thing and something to be celebrated for sure. HUGS!! <3

By: Lady Lilith

Lady Lilith — Wed, 26 Nov 2014 21:58:31 +0000

Very well said. Although special children have this challenges at the end of they day, they are wonderful.

By: Paula

Paula — Wed, 26 Nov 2014 18:10:26 +0000

In reply to Dawn.

Dawn: First thanks for the hug. Second – Oh my God I know that feeling so well. It’s very one day at a time. I have no idea where this leads. I hope it is a safe and health and happy functional picture that we all get through together. Mornings when she screams for an hour before we get her to school are completely traumatic for everyone. Plus I swear to God both of us have sustained hearing damage. She’s been screaming for 8 years.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Wed, 26 Nov 2014 17:54:18 +0000

Paula, I just want to give you a big hug! You express so well things I can’t figure out how to say. Many times I have thought bad thoughts about our birth mom. Why did you do this? You were creating a baby that deserved better but then I think what if she was better? Would he have come to us then? Who knows, I hate when people ask if one day he will meet her. Yes, it will probably be good for them both but does she deserve this wonderful person in her life? Will she just cause him more pain? I don’t know. I do know I love him with all my heart even when I feel challenge every minute of every day. I worry constantly about him probably to unreasonable levels but I know he needs me to be his advocate. We’ve had a few good months. Teachers and leaders of activities have commented on changes & improvements then last night I saw something new & worrisome. Will it turn into something, I do not know. That seems to be my theme, I’ll do anything for you & love you with all my heart but where this journey takes us, I do not know.